Why adults have affairs?
Talk about a loaded theme that no one wants to chat about, that’s it. Funny thing, affairs have been going on from ancient times. Extramarital affairs can be filled with problems, cause sadness, and other harms. Also you must wrap your maind around all the other issues, there’s that truth and sincerety matter, finances, age difference, spiritual upbringing, guilt, and on and on. I anticipate there will be some strong opinions about some of this.
For the purpose of this post I shall identify an affair as a long term, maybe months long relationship of a sexual nature between two individuals of whom one or both are married to other wives/husbands, married woman looking for dating married men.
Why do men have extramarital affairs? There are as many reasons as there are seeking affair. I am conserned mainly though it is just the human nature, the need for love, belonging, to be wanted and cared for, the caring for others and wanting to be loved and respected. Here are a few reasons I have run across.
Naturally we as human beings are all sexual beings. Nature has us set up to reproduce, to have sex. Sex is pleasant and fun, and sex makes us escape the world for a short period of time. This euphoria exists for whatever amount of time we are able to keep the adrenalin levels elevated enough. Some people can turn the craving on and off, some are good at controlling it and others are so-so at best. Though we all have it, young and old, able bodied and not so able. It is the Human condition. For some of us it is the sex act itself that drives us. For some of us it is the excitement of the pursue. For some of us it is the seduction, for some it is the caring for another individual, for some it is the desire to be appreciatedloved, for some it is the total romance thing. These wishes and yearnings can be so strong they overcome the taboos the world has erected against married dating. For many people the yearnings will defeat their doubts and make them risk the anger of not only their relatives, but society as well. So why, what is the method?
Sex Addicts, perhaps some of us are. Sex is very pleasant, better then drugs, a natural high. If you are in this group of physically motivated sex addicts and can find away to have sex and not hurt your family or anybody else? You would need to minimize the hazard you are taking. If you have the feeling that a good affair is one that is advantageous to all, then good luck.
No love at home, or no romance. I think this is the major group, gigantic truly. There are many couples whose marriage is over, except they feel happy in the manner they live, and upsetting the extended families is not on their list of things they wish to do. You love your other half but there is no romance. Also there are the children to look after. Your finances are so entwined. You need the medical insurance, and so on. There are a lot of reasons to stay jointly besides love and sex.
Bodily reasons, there are some people who can not have sex. They have physical circumstances that prevent them completing the sex operation, at least not with their spouse. An extramarital affair occasionally solves the problem while keeping the marriage uharmed.
Ignoring, sadly this is a frequent cause I fear. One or the other, frequently the guy is sexually neglecting his wife for a multitude of reasons. As a male I actually am grateful to you guys neglecting your wives and making them available to us men of romance, making them “lonely wives” But I still think it is despicable that you are neglectful. Then there is the spouse who is neglectful until the wife or husband has an affair, then they condemn them for doing so, when they where the catalyst. Those who neglect, then condemn, are not just neglectful, but evil.
Something is just misplaced in the marriage, I can not put my finger on it, but its not there. Maybe its romance that is missing, maybe it is a shortage of love, could be caring is gone, could be it is the intimacy, could be neglect. Could be we have simply grown distantly, our general concerns diverged. Maybe it is that what I want, and what I want to do the rest of my ages, is diverce of what you want. Could be I simply don’t know what I want from the marriage anymore. Could be, just maybe I miss that sensation that when I am with you, it just feels right.
The number one reason people give is, they seek the passion that is missing and so very much longed for.
There are other reasons, the feeling of power, to run away, for financial gain, for vengeance and so on. I am sure there are more reasons why people have affairs then these. I only stop because if this gets too long no one will read it.
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